As a Psychotherapist, I work with a diverse population of couples in various stages of their relationships. Some have been married a short time, some for more than 20 years, some contemplating marriage, and some comfortable being in a committed partnership. By the time a couple seeks out therapy, they are usually struggling to share intimate thoughts and feelings with their partner due to components of intimacy that have run aground between them usually due to the lack of necessary communication for problem-solving ongoing relational concerns.
I have developed a simple method to help remedy the stagnation in their verbal and physical interactions which I hope will strengthen their emotional connection. It is called “The 10 Minute Check In” and it is preferably completed on a daily basis for maximum effect for a couple’s well being.
How it works:
A couple will decide on the time of day they will have a “10 minute” verbal interaction, not about children, finances, extended family members, work, or sports shows. The subject matter is all about them, the couple, and begins with this question to each other, “Am I meeting your emotional needs today as your partner”?
At first reading, you are probably thinking, that is a certainty to start an argument or offending their partner with a negative response. However, this…
